The recent fires at Wang Fuk Court in Tai Po have touched the hearts of so many in our community, leaving families to face not only loss but a deep sense of trauma and overwhelming emotions. It’s completely natural to feel shaken—these are normal reactions to abnormal events—and children often feel these impacts even more deeply. Many factors, such as personal history and support systems, influence how each child or adult responds to trauma. The effects of trauma can be wide-ranging, including psychological, physical, and relational consequences. That’s why it’s so important for parents, caregivers, and educators to come together with patience and kindness, creating safe spaces where feelings can be shared openly and where emotional support and understanding are always available.
Trauma research and our understanding of how communities recover from collective traumatic events are still in the early stages. Ongoing studies continue to shape how we support those affected.
Understanding Vicarious Trauma
Vicarious trauma is the emotional impact that affects those who witness or hear about traumatic events, even if they aren’t directly involved. Trauma reactions can vary widely and may include both immediate and delayed responses. It can bring on feelings of anxiety, helplessness, and post-traumatic stress, reminding us that trauma doesn’t just affect individuals—it ripples through families and communities. The emotional response to vicarious trauma can include feeling overwhelmed or shocked.
Introduction to Traumatic Events
Traumatic events are powerful experiences that can leave a lasting mark on our emotional and psychological well-being. These events might be sudden and unexpected, like a car accident or the sudden death of a loved one, or they can unfold over time, such as ongoing childhood trauma or repeated exposure to violence. No matter the cause, traumatic experiences can trigger a range of trauma symptoms, from anxiety and fear to difficulty concentrating and changes in behavior. For some, these symptoms may develop into posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), a serious mental health condition that requires professional support. Recognizing the impact of traumatic events—whether they happen to us directly or to those around us—is the first step in helping children and adults heal. It’s important to remember that anyone, regardless of age or background, can be affected by trauma, and early intervention can make a significant difference in recovery and long-term mental health.
Children are incredibly sensitive to the emotions around them. When they sense fear or distress, they might respond in ways that can be confusing or worrying, such as:
- Heightened Anxiety and Fear: They might suddenly refuse to sleep alone, have nightmares, or experience bedwetting—these are common trauma-related symptoms in children.
- Emotional Struggles: Children may find it hard to put their feelings into words, leading to withdrawal or acting out.
- Challenges in Development: Ongoing anxiety can affect their ability to concentrate at school or make and keep friends.
Children may also display psychological symptoms such as persistent sadness, irritability, or difficulty trusting others. Trauma can manifest as both emotional and physical symptoms, such as stomachaches or headaches alongside emotional struggles. If children experience severe symptoms—such as ongoing panic attacks or inability to function at school—professional help should be sought. Teaching children coping skills is crucial to help them manage their responses to trauma and build resilience.
After experiencing traumatic events
After experiencing traumatic events, some individuals may develop trauma-related disorders that can significantly impact their daily lives. Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is one of the most well-known, marked by symptoms such as flashbacks, nightmares, avoidance of reminders, and heightened alertness. Acute stress disorder shares similar symptoms but occurs in the immediate aftermath of trauma and may resolve within a few weeks. Complex PTSD can develop after repeated trauma, especially in childhood, and often involves difficulties with emotional regulation and relationships. If trauma symptoms persist or worsen, it’s important to seek help from a mental health professional. Trauma exposure can also increase the risk of other mental health problems, including depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. Early recognition and intervention are crucial for preventing long-term effects and supporting recovery.
- Gently talk about what’s happening, using words they can understand, so they feel seen and heard. Some children may be reacting not only to the current situation but also to multiple traumatic events they have experienced in the past. Children with a history of past trauma may need extra reassurance and support.
- Keep daily routines consistent—simple things like regular meal times and bedtime rituals can bring comfort and a sense of safety.
- Model calming techniques, such as the “5-4-3-2-1” grounding exercise, which helps children connect with the present moment and ease their worries.
- Remember to care for your own mental health too—looking after yourself means you’ll be better able to support your children. If you feel overwhelmed, seek support from professionals or community resources.
- Limit screen time and watch the news together, choosing carefully to avoid unnecessary distress while staying informed. Be mindful of other traumatic events that may be affecting children, such as family changes or previous losses.
Building resilience
Building resilience is a vital part of helping children and adults recover from traumatic events. Resilience doesn’t mean avoiding pain or distress, but rather developing healthy coping strategies to manage trauma symptoms and support mental health. Simple practices like regular exercise, mindfulness, and connecting with supportive friends or family can make a big difference. Seeking help from behavioral health services or a mental health professional can provide additional tools and trauma-informed care, creating a sense of safety and empowerment. It’s also important to pay attention to physical symptoms of trauma, such as somatic symptoms or sleep difficulties, as these are often part of the body’s response to stress. By fostering a supportive environment and encouraging open communication, we can help individuals process their traumatic experiences, regain a sense of control, and move forward with hope and strength.
It’s okay to ask for help.
In these challenging moments, let’s hold one another with empathy and kindness. Mental health matters deeply, and together we can find strength, resilience, and hope for brighter days ahead.
Lyndsey’s clinical experience includes providing individual and group counselling for children (6-18) and adults in school and community settings, addressing issues ranging from anxiety and depression to complex trauma, neurodiversity, and identity exploration.
If you or someone you love is struggling, please reach out for professional support. In an emergency, contact your nearest hospital or connect with MindNLife—they truly care and want to help.
