Given the growing rates of depression, anxiety and associated challenges in teenagers, it is more important than ever that parents feel equipped to recognise concerns, communicate with their teens and proactively seek support for them, as required.
Supporting adolescents with their mental health can be very difficult to navigate, not least because we all want support in different ways.
Are there any signs to look out for?
Sometimes teenagers are able to express that they are struggling with their emotions or a particular problem or concern. More often, you become aware of an issue through changes in mood or behaviour. Some examples are:
- Withdrawal or isolation
- Risk-taking behaviours
- Agitation or difficulties concentrating
- Losing interest in previously enjoyable activities
- Anger or aggression
- Sleeping more or less than usual
- Eating more or less than usual
- Hygiene concerns
- Repetitive behaviours
- Self-harm
Even before any issues arise there are things that you can be doing to support your child with their emotional health and the development of healthy coping mechanisms.
Some important things to remember:
- Create a culture of acceptance regarding mental health – talk about the topic in a non-threatening way, using examples from film, books, media and people outside of the home.
- Take responsibility for modelling healthy communication regarding your own emotions and challenges. Demonstrate that you prioritise wellbeing and exploring healthy coping mechanisms.
- There is no perfect way to communicate – choose a time and place that would be most calm and comfortable for both of you. This does not need to be a formal discussion– often teens prefer talking whilst walking/driving or during an activity. The main thing is that you’re able to give your full attention.
- Offer understanding, empathy and support – no matter how insignificant or illogical their worries may seem, it is important not to minimise or dismiss feelings as this shuts down conversation.
- Focus on being a good listener, reflecting what you hear and exploring their perspective rather than giving advice or fixing problems. Teenagers don’t always want solutions, particularly right away/ from their parents – sometimes they just want someone to listen and hold space for them.
- Respect boundaries – it can be frustrating if your child doesn’t open up, however, it’s important not to pressure or force conversation. Let them know you are there if and when they are ready.
- Ask your child how they want to be supported. It may be that they are resistant to support or do not know what works for them, but sometimes they’re able to share useful insights into what they find helpful.
If your child is feeling low or anxious for a prolonged period of time, or if you have any serious concerns about how your child is feeling or acting, you may want to seek professional advice or help.
