WHY HONG KONG PARENTS SHOULD NOT FEEL GUILTY ABOUT SAYING NO
Every parent wishes their child has everything they need, even things that they themselves never had. But is it possible to give your child everything
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Transitioning to Motherhood
Having a baby is an exciting, challenging and stressful experience. Welcoming your bundle of joy into this world should come with the most happy and
KEEPING YOUR CHILD SECURE DURING A DIVORCE
During a divorce, parents might experience intense emotions towards the other estranged parent. Often, unknowingly, one of the parents emotionally harms a child during and
NAVIGATING THE BABY BLUES
According to the Family Health Department, up to 80% of new mothers in Hong Kong are affected by the baby blues. For 20% of new
HONG KONG MATERNITY CONFERENCE 2017
Dr. Quratulain Zaidi will be a Guest Speaker at the Hong Kong Maternity Conference 2017 on Saturday, 21st October at the J.W. Marriott Hotel, speaking about the
HELPING TEENS COPE WITH PEER PRESSURE
Peer pressure is a topic that we are all familiar with. Regardless of age, the urge to change our behaviour to fit in with a
HAPPY FAMILIES
Despite the excitement of living in a new city, it is inevitable that you will experience the downside of moving. Leaving behind a familiar place,
GIVE BULLYING THE BOOT!
Did you know that 23% of kids who were victims of frequent bullying had sought help for psychiatric problems before age 30? Additionally, 20% of
Counselling in Hong Kong: Common Issues Expats Face
Some say that Hong Kong is a marriage graveyard. But can a particular city really have an effect on your marriage? Moving to a new
MARRIAGE IN HONG KONG – FIND THE SILVER LINING WHILE YOU CHASE THE BRASS RING
Hong Kong is an amazing city. One full of vibrant, interesting, and exciting people, places, and opportunities. Expats often find themselves living a life quite
INVESTING IN RELATIONSHIPS IN HK
(As published in Localiiz) We do a lot of investing in Hong Kong, and there is no shortage of investment advice. How well we invest
10 TIPS – HOW TO HELP IF YOUR CHILD HAS ADHD
DR QURATULAIN ZAIDI of MindNLife discusses the learning challenges that can attend a child with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and suggests ways that you as
ANNIHILATE STRESS – THE QUIZ, 5 TIPS, AND THE ULTIMATE CHALLENGE
(As published in Localiiz) HOW STRESSED ARE YOU? TAKE THIS QUIZ AND FIND OUT. THEN, WE’LL TELL YOU WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT. If you
LOVERS IN HONG KONG – A GUIDE TO THE FOUR STAGES OF LOVE
PHOTO BY VIKTOR HANACEK I’ve previously written about how Hong Kong is a “marriage graveyard” due to some of the unique stressors in our
HONG KONG CHILDREN LEARN ENTREPRENEURSHIP ON THEIR OWN
(As published in South Morning China Post, April 2016) In a pressurised environment such as Hong Kong, it is all too easy to drive our children
MEET HONG KONG’S YOUNGEST ENTREPRENEURS
Creativity sparks amongst the young and inspires us all. But how as parents, can we balance supporting bright ideas without putting pressure on our kids
9 THINGS EVERY PARENT WITH AN ANXIOUS CHILD SHOULD TRY
Let’s face it – you would move mountains to ease your child’s pain. Whether you feel your child worries and little or a lot, worry
MAKE RELOCATING EASIER FOR THE FAMILY
Remember moving out of home or moving to college for the first time? How did it feel? Can you even remember all the different emotions
FEELING BLUE – POSTNATAL DEPRESSION AND COPING STRATEGIES
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST DR QURATULAIN ZAIDI EXPLAINS POSTNATAL DEPRESSION AND COPING STRATEGIES. The minute that tiny baby lands in your arms you are only supposed to
HOW TO BE A MINDFUL PARENT
Mindful Parenting or Mindfulness is much more than just a buzzword. As DR QURATULAIN ZAIDI of MindNLife explains, it’s being increasingly adopted as a parenting tool
NEW PARENT 101 – THE LOWDOWN ON LIFE POST-BABY
(as published in Expat Parent Magazine) By Mawgan Batt The arrival of a baby is a leap into the unknown and the beginning of a
TEENS ON TECHNOLOGY: NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF TOO MUCH SCREEN TIME
I was recently asked to talk to teenagers about the impact of social media on teens, and the affect that too much screen time might
CONTEMPLATE BEFORE THE CLICK – TEENS & SOCIAL MEDIA
(As published in Healthy Living Asia) Teens management of their profiles can take a variety of forms – Pew Research asked teen social media users
DR. QURATULAIN ZAIDI SPEAKS AT THE 2015 CASBAA CONVENTION
Dr. Quratulain Zaidi speaking at the 2015 CASBAA Convention On 26th October, Dr. Quratulain Zaidi was honored to take part on a panel at the
ASK THE EXPERT: UNDERSTANDING ADHD
(as published in The HK Hub) In a recent meeting of SEN professionals I was asked to host one of the six round table discussions.
TAKE YOUR TIME
(as published in Playtimes, September 2015) It’s all too easy to find yourself caught up in the day-to-day hustle of Hong Kong living when you
TEEN STRESS – A TOOLBOX FOR PROVIDING SUPPORT
Our teens are exposed to the kind of stress that we, as adolescents, did not know. Daily stressors today include technology and social media, school
GETTING A GRIP ON STRESS
Many people experience stress on a daily basis. Many of the stressors are universal, including work, relationships, financial issues, health problems, parenting issues and, sometimes, just daily hassles and busy schedules. Each of
AGE APPROPRIATE INTERNET USE FAMILY AGREEMENT
The goal of this agreement is to incorporate technology into our lives in a meaningful way as a tool for education and work, that allows
Overwhelmed? Five Ways to Deal With It
Before the pandemic, Samantha was a social person. She would meet her friends and colleagues at least five times a week. Samantha would go to
The Grief Experience: Emotional Pain
Suggestions on how to manage your emotional pain following the death of a loved one. The pain of grief can be all-consuming and overwhelming. It
The Grief Experience: Guilt
Why guilt and shame may arise following the loss of a loved one, and how to navigate these feelings in a healthy way. Death is
The Grief Experience: Isolation
Discussing the experience of isolation during grief, and how to help ourselves feel more connected. Grief can be a very isolating experience. We may feel
The Grief Experience: Physical Pain
Elaborating on the physical pain we can experience following the death of a loved one and how we can ease it. Losing a loved one
The Grief Experience: Anger
Exploring the feeling of anger following the loss of a loved one, what it looks like, and what can help. Anger can come on like
Dr Zaidi on Friendship
Every friendship evolves uniquely however research shows there are a few factors that help form and maintain friendships through the years: these are accumulation, attention,
Feeling burnout in Hong Kong
As this year comes to an end, those of us in Hong Kong are facing mixed emotions. Primary among these may likely be burnout. Emotional
Healthy Mourning: Four Tasks
In this article we discuss four crucial tasks that contribute to a healthy grieving process and our healing from loss. Grief and mourning are often
Grief – How to Recognise Symptoms
In this article we identify common symptoms of grief to watch out for after we experience loss. Grief refers to our cognitive, emotional, physical, behavioural,
Grief in 7 Stages
In this article we define grief and identify seven stages we may go through after experiencing a loss. When we think of grief, we often
Neuroplasticity: Can You Really Change Your Thoughts and Habits?
We used to believe that the brain stopped growing when we reached adulthood. However, current research suggests that the brain retains neuroplasticity, or the ability
What to do when kids make bad jokes
How can we get better at handling inappropriate jokes in children? We’ve all been there, a child makes a joke with words they don’t seem
Avoiding Therapy Won’t Help You Avoid Pain
Most of us seek comfort and reward over pain and punishment. When our mood has been anxious or depressed for too long, our body begins
Collaborative Separation and Divorce
Think of the word divorce. What comes to mind? The idea of divorce is loaded with negative societal stereotypes such as traumatised children, heart-wrenching court
How Childhood Trauma affects us as Adults and Why we Deserve Treatment
As children, we start out helpless and powerless. When we are just born, we are fully reliant on our caregivers for nourishment, safety, and survival.
Managing Borderline Personality Disorder in Relationships
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) impacts relationships severely because it is linked with extreme fear of abandonment with a complexity of inability to regulate emotions. In
Reclaiming our Focus
There is no such thing as multitasking, only multi- failing! My children grew up hearing this from me almost every day. We need to reclaiming
How can Trauma Therapy Help?
Trauma therapy can diagnose and treat subclinical and clinical trauma- or stress-related disorders, such as Acute Stress Disorder or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. It addresses the
Attachment styles and relationships
Have you ever wondered why some people are able to cut off an ex and move on, while others are ‘clingy’ and need constant validation