HOW TO GET TURNED ON, WHY YOU DON’T NEED TO BE A SEX GOD, AND THE VALUE OF ‘MAINTENANCE SEX’
This month, Dr. Kristin Zeising, MindnLife’s certified sex therapist, speaks to SCMP and gives her views on how to help you get in the mood,
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SOCIAL MEDIA AND YOUR CHILD’S MENTAL HEALTH
This month, Dr. Zaidi talks to Expat Living Hong Kong about the impact that social media may be having on teenagers’ mental health. With a
EXCESSIVE SOCIAL MEDIA USE LINKED TO DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY AMONGST TEENS
Excessive social media use has been linked to depression and anxiety among teenagers. Data from more than 40,000 American children suggests that young people who spend
IS IT TIME FOR ANTI-BULLYING LAWS IN HONG KONG?
A recent international survey into bullying has shown Hong Kong is the worst performer when it comes to the percentage of children being bullied, with
SELF HARM
Why is it so important to take Self Harm seriously? Definition of Self harm according to NICE 2004 “Intentional self poisoning or injury, irrespective of
TREATING MOMS, PROTECTING BABIES
CATCHING PRE-AND POST-NATAL DEPRESSION EARLY SAVES MORE THAN ONE LIFE The minute that tiny baby lands in your arms you are only supposed to feel
HOW TO TALK TO AND COMFORT SUICIDE SURVIVORS
It can be difficult to know what to say to or do for someone who is grieving the sudden death by suicide of a loved
RELATIONSHIPS AND CONFLICT
It can be easy to assume that good relationships are effortless and frictionless, with each party able to completely be themselves, and ask for anything and
MAKING THE TRANSITION: RELOCATION AND COPING AS A FAMILY
Relocation to a new home presents unique challenges, many of which particularly affect expat children. As we discovered in recent conversation with expert clinical psychologist
YOUR FAMILY’S WELL BEING
LIVING IN THE PAST CAN LEAD TO DEPRESSION WHILE LIVING IN THE FUTURE CAN INCREASE ANXIETY. AIM TO LIVE IN THE HERE AND NOW! One in
CONNECTING THROUGH PLAY
People are social and long for human connection. This connection includes the knowledge that you are seen and heard, and that you are respected and
KNOW THEIR LIMITS – HOW MUCH SCREEN TIME FOR KIDS?
Are you worried that your children are becoming addicted to their screens? In this world of ever evolving technology, it’s always a challenge to ensure
DEPRESSION TREATMENT – WHAT WORKS BEST?
Depression treatment – what works best? Electro-convulsive therapy (ECT), medication, or behavioural therapy? ECT therapy has been around for 80 years, but there are also
UNDERSTANDING TRAUMA
Trauma occurs when an accident, abuse, loss or something unpredictable causes us to feel emotions such as intense fear, shock, denial and distress. For the
MAKING MARRIAGE A PRIORITY
Expat life, particularly in Hong Kong, presents expat marriage challenges with unique obstacles and difficulties. Dr. Quratulain Zaidi breaks down some of the common pitfalls
TALKING ABOUT MENTAL ILLNESS HELPED UNIFY OUR FAMILY
Talking about mental illness amongst family members is difficult and not a subject most people are comfortable discussing. Mental illness of a family member affects
ADHD AND TEENS
ADHD and Teens – growing up with this disorder presents some unique challanges for youth today. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD/ADD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder
‘HONG KONG IS A MARRIAGE GRAVEYARD’
(As previously published in Expat Living) ‘Hong Kong is a marriage graveyard!” When one of my patients declared this to me recently, I wasn’t surprised.
IS ADHD AFFECTING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
DR Quratulain Zaidi of MindNLife discusses strategies for adult relationships where one or both partners have ADHD and how to spot ADHD symptoms. The meaning
PARENTING EXPERTS FROM AROUND THE WORLD SHARE THEIR METHODS, MANTRAS, AND IDEALS
Recently worldwide parenting experts from Asia, Europe, Australia, and Africa discussed raising children with the South China Morning Post, sharing tips on how they raise
10 COPING STRATEGIES FOR NEW MUMS
There is still something of a stigma around postnatal depression (PND) in Hong Kong.Motherhood is typically viewed as a “happy time” and childbirth as an
WHY AM I SO ANGRY?
Humans have emotions for a reason. Some emotions keep us safe, social and on a certain life path. Anger is an emotion that tells others,
FORGET ABOUT BEING THE PERFECT PARENT
We all strive to be that perfect parent, one that has the perfect response in any situation, always provides the best advise, and never over-reacts.
HONG KONG KIDS FIGHT OFF SCHOOL BULLIES
Concerned about how your children may be affected by bullying? Want to help your child learn to fight off school bullies? Dr. Quratulain Zaidi, a
HOW TO RAISE BROAD-MINDED CHILDREN
One of the big challenges parents face today is how to raise broad-minded children in a world where being different is still unsettling for many.
FORGET PARENTING BOOKS, CLASSES, AND DR. GOOGLE – PERFECT PARENTS DON’T EXIST
Ever wish your child came with a manual? Or that someone, or even a website, could just tell you all you need to know to
WHY IS MY TEENAGER CUTTING?
The modern teenager is under immense social and academic pressure. Not only are teenagers going through rapid hormonal and brain changes, their social life is
EASING ACADEMIC STRESS IN THE HOME
Academic pressure is a major source of anxiety and stress for many children and teens. As a parent, you want what is best for your
THE BEST WAYS TO STAY MOTIVATED
We’ve all heard that employee motivation is crucial to keeping your staff charged and focused towards their work goals. But what do you do when
LIFE AFTER DIVORCE IN HONG KONG
Did you know that Hong Kong’s is ranked number 12 in the list of places where divorce is most common? With Hong Kong’s growing reputation
Overwhelmed? Five Ways to Deal With It
Before the pandemic, Samantha was a social person. She would meet her friends and colleagues at least five times a week. Samantha would go to
The Grief Experience: Emotional Pain
Suggestions on how to manage your emotional pain following the death of a loved one. The pain of grief can be all-consuming and overwhelming. It
The Grief Experience: Guilt
Why guilt and shame may arise following the loss of a loved one, and how to navigate these feelings in a healthy way. Death is
The Grief Experience: Isolation
Discussing the experience of isolation during grief, and how to help ourselves feel more connected. Grief can be a very isolating experience. We may feel
The Grief Experience: Physical Pain
Elaborating on the physical pain we can experience following the death of a loved one and how we can ease it. Losing a loved one
The Grief Experience: Anger
Exploring the feeling of anger following the loss of a loved one, what it looks like, and what can help. Anger can come on like
Dr Zaidi on Friendship
Every friendship evolves uniquely however research shows there are a few factors that help form and maintain friendships through the years: these are accumulation, attention,
Feeling burnout in Hong Kong
As this year comes to an end, those of us in Hong Kong are facing mixed emotions. Primary among these may likely be burnout. Emotional
Healthy Mourning: Four Tasks
In this article we discuss four crucial tasks that contribute to a healthy grieving process and our healing from loss. Grief and mourning are often
Grief – How to Recognise Symptoms
In this article we identify common symptoms of grief to watch out for after we experience loss. Grief refers to our cognitive, emotional, physical, behavioural,
Grief in 7 Stages
In this article we define grief and identify seven stages we may go through after experiencing a loss. When we think of grief, we often
Neuroplasticity: Can You Really Change Your Thoughts and Habits?
We used to believe that the brain stopped growing when we reached adulthood. However, current research suggests that the brain retains neuroplasticity, or the ability
What to do when kids make bad jokes
How can we get better at handling inappropriate jokes in children? We’ve all been there, a child makes a joke with words they don’t seem
Avoiding Therapy Won’t Help You Avoid Pain
Most of us seek comfort and reward over pain and punishment. When our mood has been anxious or depressed for too long, our body begins
Collaborative Separation and Divorce
Think of the word divorce. What comes to mind? The idea of divorce is loaded with negative societal stereotypes such as traumatised children, heart-wrenching court
How Childhood Trauma affects us as Adults and Why we Deserve Treatment
As children, we start out helpless and powerless. When we are just born, we are fully reliant on our caregivers for nourishment, safety, and survival.
Managing Borderline Personality Disorder in Relationships
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) impacts relationships severely because it is linked with extreme fear of abandonment with a complexity of inability to regulate emotions. In
Reclaiming our Focus
There is no such thing as multitasking, only multi- failing! My children grew up hearing this from me almost every day. We need to reclaiming
How can Trauma Therapy Help?
Trauma therapy can diagnose and treat subclinical and clinical trauma- or stress-related disorders, such as Acute Stress Disorder or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. It addresses the
Attachment styles and relationships
Have you ever wondered why some people are able to cut off an ex and move on, while others are ‘clingy’ and need constant validation