An Alternative to Conflict
The decision to end a marriage is challenging – and it kick-starts a cascade of events that require many more important decisions. One is how
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Can noise pollution effect our mental health?
Noise pollution is the spread of unwanted sounds into the environment. Even small increases in the level of ambient noise can have a significant effect.
Baby Blues or More?
In this article I address the issue of postnatal depression or baby blues and how it can affect not just new mums but their partners
Overwhelmed? Five Ways to Deal With It
Before the pandemic, Samantha was a social person. She would meet her friends and colleagues at least five times a week. Samantha would go to
The Grief Experience: Emotional Pain
Suggestions on how to manage your emotional pain following the death of a loved one. The pain of grief can be all-consuming and overwhelming. It
The Grief Experience: Guilt
Why guilt and shame may arise following the loss of a loved one, and how to navigate these feelings in a healthy way. Death is
The Grief Experience: Isolation
Discussing the experience of isolation during grief, and how to help ourselves feel more connected. Grief can be a very isolating experience. We may feel
The Grief Experience: Physical Pain
Elaborating on the physical pain we can experience following the death of a loved one and how we can ease it. Losing a loved one
The Grief Experience: Anger
Exploring the feeling of anger following the loss of a loved one, what it looks like, and what can help. Anger can come on like
Dr Zaidi on Friendship
Every friendship evolves uniquely however research shows there are a few factors that help form and maintain friendships through the years: these are accumulation, attention,
Feeling burnout in Hong Kong
As this year comes to an end, those of us in Hong Kong are facing mixed emotions. Primary among these may likely be burnout. Emotional
Healthy Mourning: Four Tasks
In this article we discuss four crucial tasks that contribute to a healthy grieving process and our healing from loss. Grief and mourning are often
Grief – How to Recognise Symptoms
In this article we identify common symptoms of grief to watch out for after we experience loss. Grief refers to our cognitive, emotional, physical, behavioural,
Grief in 7 Stages
In this article we define grief and identify seven stages we may go through after experiencing a loss. When we think of grief, we often
Neuroplasticity: Can You Really Change Your Thoughts and Habits?
We used to believe that the brain stopped growing when we reached adulthood. However, current research suggests that the brain retains neuroplasticity, or the ability
What to do when kids make bad jokes
How can we get better at handling inappropriate jokes in children? We’ve all been there, a child makes a joke with words they don’t seem
Avoiding Therapy Won’t Help You Avoid Pain
Most of us seek comfort and reward over pain and punishment. When our mood has been anxious or depressed for too long, our body begins
Collaborative Separation and Divorce
Think of the word divorce. What comes to mind? The idea of divorce is loaded with negative societal stereotypes such as traumatised children, heart-wrenching court
How Childhood Trauma affects us as Adults and Why we Deserve Treatment
As children, we start out helpless and powerless. When we are just born, we are fully reliant on our caregivers for nourishment, safety, and survival.
Managing Borderline Personality Disorder in Relationships
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) impacts relationships severely because it is linked with extreme fear of abandonment with a complexity of inability to regulate emotions. In
Reclaiming our Focus
There is no such thing as multitasking, only multi- failing! My children grew up hearing this from me almost every day. We need to reclaiming
How can Trauma Therapy Help?
Trauma therapy can diagnose and treat subclinical and clinical trauma- or stress-related disorders, such as Acute Stress Disorder or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. It addresses the
Attachment styles and relationships
Have you ever wondered why some people are able to cut off an ex and move on, while others are ‘clingy’ and need constant validation
What is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder?
As per the diagnostic manual DSM-V, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can develop after “exposure to actual or threatened death, serious injury, or sexual violence” either
Mental Health and Menopause
Women’s bodies go through many changes biologically, hormonally, and psychologically, from menstrual cycles to pregnancy, to childbirth, to the physical limits of postpartum, and more,
What is trauma? Learn how to differentiate between little t trauma and Big T Trauma.
Trauma is our reaction to deeply distressing incidents that overwhelm our coping capabilities. Trauma impacts us at four levels: emotional, cognitive, physical, and behavioural. More
Yes, it’s Possible to Leave a Narcissist
If you’re dating a narcissist, you might be experiencing narcissistic abuse. Leaving an abusive relationship is far from easy, as abusers will do anything to
RTHK Interview: Working From Home During Covid 19
Hosted by Jim Gould and Mike Rowse, RTHK’s Working Remotely; Government’s Clean-up Campaign episode in August featured MindnLife’s owner Dr. Zaidi. The episode was produced
Narcissism In Relationships: Everything You Need to Know
Dating a narcissist can be dangerous territory, as it can lead to narcissistic abuse in extreme cases. While just about anyone can display narcissistic behaviour
Spot A Narcissist!
The word ‘narcissist’ sometimes gets thrown around as an insult to someone who thinks a little too highly of themselves. But narcissism is a spectrum,
ADHD in Adults: Understanding Its Impact on Romantic Relationships
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) isn’t just a childhood condition—it often persists into adulthood, presenting unique challenges in various aspects of life, particularly romantic relationships.
Women’s Mental Health in Midlife: Expert Insights & Self-Care Tips
In the hustle and bustle of daily life, women often find themselves juggling multiple roles – career professional, caregiver, parent, partner – leaving little room
How can a mental health condition affect a person’s ability to parent and their parenting styles?
1. Depression Research shows parents experiencing depression may exhibit reduced energy, diminished interest in activities, and impaired concentration. These symptoms can lead to less engagement
Building Healthy Relationships: Insights from Clinical Psychologist Dr. Quratulain Zaidi
In a recent interview with Noreen Mir on RTHK Radio Three, clinical psychologist Dr. Quratulain Zaidi shared valuable insights into maintaining healthy long-term relationships. Her
Best Women’s Health Specialist. We Won Double at the Expat Living Awards – Thanks to You!
Wow – what amazing news to share! You’ve voted Our founder Dr Zaidi among top 5 Hong Kong’s Best Women’s Health Specialist AND our team
The Psychology of New Year’s Resolutions: Insights from Dr. Quratulain Zaidi
Many of us are making New Year’s resolutions in the hopes of improving our quality of life as we enter the new year. However, what
The Development of Self-Image in Children
A child’s self-image is a crucial aspect of their development. It not only affects how they perceive themselves but also how they interact with others,
Why AI girlfriends or boyfriends via romantic chatbot apps could cause real-life harm
The rise of people ‘dating’ AI romantic chatbot app raises concerns about their impact on communication and relationship skills, potentially trapping users in loneliness. Building
How Smartphone Addiction Is Turning People Into Phone Zombies
Smartphone addiction has become widespread in Hong Kong, causing family strife, insomnia, anxiety and depression, a psychologist says Bright red lights shine onto the ground
Supporting your teenager with their mental health
Given the growing rates of depression, anxiety, and associated challenges in teenagers, supporting your teenager with their mental health is more important than ever, and
How Online Therapy is Revolutionising Mental Health Care
In recent years, the landscape of mental health care has undergone a significant transformation. With the advent of technology, particularly in the field of telemedicine,
Responding to Aggressive Behaviour in Children
Responding to aggressive behaviour in children can be very stressful and upsetting for parents. It’s often assumed that it’s a behavioural or disciplinary issue or
Transforming Negative Core Beliefs with EMDR
Negative beliefs like “I’m not good enough” or “I’m worthless” can deeply affect self-esteem, emotions, and behaviour. EMDR therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) effectively
MindNLife Psychology Practice Expands Services to the UK
MindNLife Psychology Practice is excited to extend its high-quality mental health services to clients in both Hong Kong and the United Kingdom. Our new offices
Navigating divorce with a neurodivergent child
Neurodiverse children commonly face challenges with emotional regulation, executive functioning, self-esteem and belonging – all of which can be further impacted by divorce, affecting their
Mastering self-care through the practice of self-compassion
In therapeutic work, I see the same pattern over and over again. People tend to be very good at showing compassion to everyone else in
Am I Divorcing a Narcissist?
The end of a marriage can be harrowing for both partners. Sometimes, this pain makes people more reactive. These reactions include aggression, isolation, smear campaigns,
“STRESS”A SILENT EPIDEMIC OF OUR TIME
In Hong Kong’s fast paced life it’s not a surprise that I see 3/5 people who report high levels of stress, so what is stress?
FORENSIC PSYCHOLOGY EXPLAINED
What is Forensic Psychology? When seeking psychological support, it’s natural to look for a clinical psychologist as this is the largest and most prominent speciality
The Power of Social Skills
In today’s world, the power of social skills is essential for children to achieve success. It’s not just about academic performance – strong social
