Beyond Boundaries
In the landscape of therapeutic interventions, the term “boundaries” has gained widespread popularity. In this article, Dr Quratulain Zaidi, of MindNLife explains why she’s reluctant
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Unlocking the Benefits of Online Therapy: A Guide to Choosing the Right Therapist
In today’s fast-paced world, taking care of our mental health and our holistic wellbeing is more important than ever. As a private psychology practice for
Will Divorce Affect My Child’s Sense of Security?
It is common for people to stay together for their children. They fear that their child might come from a broken home. These ideas do
Do New Year’s resolutions really work?
When we set big, overwhelming New Year’s resolutions, we also set up the expectation that we’re going to turn over an entirely new leaf and
Future proofing your marriage from grey divorce
It’s been about a decade since Brown’s research popularised the term “grey divorce” to describe this phenomenon – something that used to be a rarity,
Children and emotions
Children are innately emotional. From a young age, they go through various emotions like happiness, curiosity, sadness, and fear. Emotions serve an important function; we
Does EMDR work online?
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a technique that uses eye movements. The eye movements are a form of bilateral stimulation that reduces the
How EMDR can help children process traumatic experiences
Children are vulnerable and can easily be traumatised by various events in their lives. Traumatic experiences can have a profound impact on a child’s development
An Alternative to Conflict
The decision to end a marriage is challenging, and it kick-starts a cascade of events that require many more important decisions. One is how to
Can noise pollution effect our mental health?
Noise pollution is the spread of unwanted sounds into the environment. Even small increases in the level of ambient noise can have a significant effect.
Baby Blues or More?
In this article I address the issue of postnatal depression or baby blues and how it can affect not just new mums but their partners
Overwhelmed? Five Ways to Deal With It
Before the pandemic, Samantha was a social person. She would meet her friends and colleagues at least five times a week. Samantha would go to
The Grief Experience: Emotional Pain
Suggestions on how to manage your emotional pain following the death of a loved one. The pain of grief can be all-consuming and overwhelming. It
The Grief Experience: Guilt
Why guilt and shame may arise following the loss of a loved one, and how to navigate these feelings in a healthy way. Death is
The Grief Experience: Isolation
Discussing the experience of isolation during grief, and how to help ourselves feel more connected. Grief can be a very isolating experience. We may feel
The Grief Experience: Physical Pain
Elaborating on the physical pain we can experience following the death of a loved one and how we can ease it. Losing a loved one
The Grief Experience: Anger
Exploring the feeling of anger following the loss of a loved one, what it looks like, and what can help. Anger can come on like
Dr Zaidi on Friendship
Every friendship evolves uniquely however research shows there are a few factors that help form and maintain friendships through the years: these are accumulation, attention,
Feeling burnout in Hong Kong
As this year comes to an end, those of us in Hong Kong are facing mixed emotions. Primary among these may likely be burnout. Emotional
Healthy Mourning: Four Tasks
In this article we discuss four crucial tasks that contribute to a healthy grieving process and our healing from loss. Grief and mourning are often
Grief – How to Recognise Symptoms
In this article we identify common symptoms of grief to watch out for after we experience loss. Grief refers to our cognitive, emotional, physical, behavioural,
Grief in 7 Stages
In this article we define grief and identify seven stages we may go through after experiencing a loss. When we think of grief, we often
Neuroplasticity: Can You Really Change Your Thoughts and Habits?
We used to believe that the brain stopped growing when we reached adulthood. However, current research suggests that the brain retains neuroplasticity, or the ability
What to do when kids make bad jokes
How can we get better at handling inappropriate jokes in children? We’ve all been there, a child makes a joke with words they don’t seem
Avoiding Therapy Won’t Help You Avoid Pain
Most of us seek comfort and reward over pain and punishment. When our mood has been anxious or depressed for too long, our body begins
Collaborative Separation and Divorce
Think of the word divorce. What comes to mind? The idea of divorce is loaded with negative societal stereotypes such as traumatised children, heart-wrenching court
How Childhood Trauma affects us as Adults and Why we Deserve Treatment
As children, we start out helpless and powerless. When we are just born, we are fully reliant on our caregivers for nourishment, safety, and survival.
Managing Borderline Personality Disorder in Relationships
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) impacts relationships severely because it is linked with extreme fear of abandonment with a complexity of inability to regulate emotions. In
Reclaiming our Focus
There is no such thing as multitasking, only multi- failing! My children grew up hearing this from me almost every day. We need to reclaiming
How can Trauma Therapy Help?
Trauma therapy can diagnose and treat subclinical and clinical trauma- or stress-related disorders, such as Acute Stress Disorder or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. It addresses the
Attachment styles and relationships
Have you ever wondered why some people are able to cut off an ex and move on, while others are ‘clingy’ and need constant validation
What is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder?
As per the diagnostic manual DSM-V, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can develop after “exposure to actual or threatened death, serious injury, or sexual violence” either
Mental Health and Menopause
Women’s bodies go through many changes biologically, hormonally, and psychologically, from menstrual cycles to pregnancy, to childbirth, to the physical limits of postpartum, and more,
What is trauma? Learn how to differentiate between little t trauma and Big T Trauma.
Trauma is our reaction to deeply distressing incidents that overwhelm our coping capabilities. Trauma impacts us at four levels: emotional, cognitive, physical, and behavioural. More
Yes, it’s Possible to Leave a Narcissist
If you’re dating a narcissist, you might be experiencing narcissistic abuse. Leaving an abusive relationship is far from easy, as abusers will do anything to
RTHK Interview: Working From Home During Covid 19
Hosted by Jim Gould and Mike Rowse, RTHK’s Working Remotely; Government’s Clean-up Campaign episode in August featured MindnLife’s owner Dr. Zaidi. The episode was produced
Narcissism In Relationships: Everything You Need to Know
Dating a narcissist can be dangerous territory, as it can lead to narcissistic abuse in extreme cases. While just about anyone can display narcissistic behaviour
Spot A Narcissist!
The word ‘narcissist’ sometimes gets thrown around as an insult to someone who thinks a little too highly of themselves. But narcissism is a spectrum,
Self-Harm: Why does it happen and how can you help?
ESSLIN TERRIGHENA shares what research has taught us on self-harm. What is self-harm? Non-suicidal self-injury, more colloquially referred to as self-harm, can be defined as
Checking In On Mental Health in Relationships
May, mental health awareness month, reminds us to check up on our mental health and reflect on how our relationships are faring. Every relationship has
Managing Mental Health After Trauma
When the safety and well-being of ourselves or our loved ones are threatened, we go into survival mode. This may involve overwhelming feelings, dulled thoughts,
SCMP Article: Stuck in quarantine? Forget Being An Adult and Do Something Just For Fun
Checking into quarantine is not an experience many look forward to. Often, quarantine can be exhausting, and we may feel drained, overwhelmed or anxious being
Overcoming Shame to Improve Your Mental Health
What is Shame? When Aaron was small, his mother would lock him in the closet to discipline him when he was loud. His father would
Stepping Away From Resentment in Your Relationship
Sometimes you can become so frustrated and resentful with your partner that it may seem easier to just end the relationship. You may feel like
How Creativity and Innovation Can Support Your Healing Journey
EMDR Francine Shapiro created eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). One day as she was walking and thinking, she noticed that her eyes were shifting
Online Therapy: How to Get the Most out of It
The Effectiveness of Online Therapy: A Modern Approach to Mental Health In recent years, online therapy has revolutionised mental health care, offering accessibility and flexibility
Online Therapy: How Effective is it?
Throughout the challenging two years of the Covid-19 pandemic, online therapy has been lifesaving for many. Despite physical isolation, people have been able to receive
Little Steps Asia Interview – Coping With Covid Fatigue ft. MindnLife
Looking after our mental health and supporting family and friends as we navigate our way through the pandemic is crucial – but it can be
Which Type of Lonely are you?
If you were to google types of loneliness, you might be surprised at how many lonely types there are. One loneliness researcher found eighty different
Relationships during a pandemic and the importance of maintaining them
The world hasn’t looked the same since early 2020. When life just started to return to some level of ‘normalcy’ in 2021, coronavirus showed us