Trauma and the Internet
Repeated exposure to violent news reports, videos, and images on media platforms can trigger both direct and vicarious trauma responses. Direct trauma describes our experience
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4 Ways to Build Stronger Communication with your Children
One of the largest changes during the Covid-19 lockdown measures, was having children sit in front of a computer screen all day for school. Then
The Impact of Isolation
DR QURATULAIN ZAIDI of MindNLife looks at the mental challenges arising from the pandemic – in particular, for those facing quarantine – and where we might turn for some relief.
My Child is Refusing Access; Now What?
Mary was struggling to get her children ready to see their father, Darren, every weekend. It was always the same story. Her twelve year old
Cultivating Turn-Ons and Turn-Offs in Your Sex Life
Many couples come to therapy because they have challenges with sexual arousal and desire. They believe that they should be turned on and don’t understand
What is a Sex Therapy Session?
In my previous post, “What Is Sex Therapy”, I described what a sex therapist is and the conditions sex therapy can treat. Here I’d like to
Parent Child Reunification Therapy
How to improve parent child communication and relationship during families transition through Separation or Divorce. Every Friday evening, Matt would go to his ex-wife’s house
Understanding Anxiety
Since Covid-19 has taken over daily life, health and social anxiety has been on the rise as we adjust to a new way of living
The Discipline Dilemma
Dr. Quratulain Zaidi of MindNLife looks at society’s tendency to normalise spanking and child discipline, and how we as parents can do better. “Life affords
On Trauma
Trauma is an experience we go through when we are faced with an event that is deeply distressing and overwhelms our coping abilities. This experience
You Don’t Have to Grin and Bear It: Understanding and Managing Menopause Symptoms
It’s estimated that up to 80% of women experience menopause symptoms, and for around 25%, these symptoms are severe. Yet many continue to suffer in
Rekindling the Spark in Your Relationship
We all know that in the beginning of a relationship, there is typically more spark and sexual excitement in your sex life. Most people believe
Reunification therapy is beneficial, even when it isn’t court-ordered
Reunification therapy is best known as a court-ordered therapy for children who have been separated from one of their parents. However, reunification therapy does not
Divorce: how to break up with dignity
Divorce is often perceived negatively, despite its prevalence. In the US, nearly 41% of first marriages end in divorce, and the emotional turmoil that follows
Coronavirus Pandemic: Helping your child cope
The Coronavirus pandemic has brought about a year of unprecedented challenges, affecting every aspect of our lives. Children are more resilient than we give them
Is your child being bullied?
DR QURATULAIN ZAIDI of MindNLife discusses bullying, an all-too-common phenomenon found in schools (and, indeed, the daily life of adults) around the world, including Hong
Is your child struggling with anxiety?
Are your children anxious? Children as young as five are presenting for treatment showing signs of anxiety and stress. But how much of it is
Perinatal Anxiety: Signs and Support
A state of distress or anxiety considered distinct from other anxious states. Perinatal anxiety primarily relates to worries about the baby’s health, and one’s own
When to leave a toxic relationship and how to avoid dating similar people so you can find someone who recognises your true worth
Toxic relationships can often lead to trauma like depression, anxiety and panic attacks. Even the happiest relationships can turn sour and result in constant conflict.
Online trolls affect victims’ mental health and tips to combat them
It’s hard to imagine life without the internet. But while the online world provides many benefits, one of its biggest drawbacks is trolls: the army
Anger management for couples – how to defuse the inevitable conflicts that coronavirus lockdowns are spurring on
Conflict and anger are natural in any relationship. But when the parties involved don’t know how to manage, contain or neutralise these suppressed emotions, these
The secret lives of teens – drugs, porn, sex, and sexting included – explained for parents
If you’re a parent, you must know your teen keeps secrets especially now with the availability of resources online. What sorts of secrets do teens
Snacking more during the Covid-19 pandemic? Why you may be emotional eating
A lot has changed over the past year. That doesn’t mean that we are accustomed to our “new normal”, so it’s natural if you find
Why trailing spouses have it tough
Why trailing spouses have it tough – stress, depression, loss of identity – and how to turn it into an opportunity! Expats are prone to
The Diversity List 2020: Women’s Voices
MindNLife is beyond proud to have our founder, Dr. Quratulain Zaidi, among The Zubin Foundation’s Diversity List 2020. The fifth list since it launch, this
Managing Menopause: How to Get Help
Menopause can be a stressful time for women. It’s not menopause per se, but the symptoms that can last years make it a difficult experience.
10 years of talking about death, and life, at Death Cafés, and why the taboo-busting movement is having a moment
Who likes to talk about death? Almost nobody, but it is an inevitable part of existence. Most people are terrified to talk about it, however
Staying Motivated
Losing motivation is not at all uncommon. However, staying unmotivated can break our otherwise smooth path to reaching our goals, or dampen our spirits so
Ease the Stress of Relocating to Hong Kong
Moving is never easy. You’ve got your homes, family and friends to leave behind. When it calls for it though, you are left with very
Manage Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks
Anxiety and panic attacks can happen to anyone. Unfortunately, it usually happens in the wrong place at the wrong time. Reactions vary from crying, running
An Alternative to Conflict
The decision to end a marriage is challenging, and it kick-starts a cascade of events that require many more important decisions. One is how to
Can noise pollution effect our mental health?
Noise pollution is the spread of unwanted sounds into the environment. Even small increases in the level of ambient noise can have a significant effect.
Baby Blues or More?
In this article I address the issue of postnatal depression or baby blues and how it can affect not just new mums but their partners
Overwhelmed? Five Ways to Deal With It
Before the pandemic, Samantha was a social person. She would meet her friends and colleagues at least five times a week. Samantha would go to
The Grief Experience: Emotional Pain
Suggestions on how to manage your emotional pain following the death of a loved one. The pain of grief can be all-consuming and overwhelming. It
The Grief Experience: Guilt
Why guilt and shame may arise following the loss of a loved one, and how to navigate these feelings in a healthy way. Death is
The Grief Experience: Isolation
Discussing the experience of isolation during grief, and how to help ourselves feel more connected. Grief can be a very isolating experience. We may feel
The Grief Experience: Physical Pain
Elaborating on the physical pain we can experience following the death of a loved one and how we can ease it. Losing a loved one
The Grief Experience: Anger
Exploring the feeling of anger following the loss of a loved one, what it looks like, and what can help. Anger can come on like
Dr Zaidi on Friendship
Every friendship evolves uniquely however research shows there are a few factors that help form and maintain friendships through the years: these are accumulation, attention,
Feeling burnout in Hong Kong
As this year comes to an end, those of us in Hong Kong are facing mixed emotions. Primary among these may likely be burnout. Emotional
Healthy Mourning: Four Tasks
In this article we discuss four crucial tasks that contribute to a healthy grieving process and our healing from loss. Grief and mourning are often
Grief – How to Recognise Symptoms
In this article we identify common symptoms of grief to watch out for after we experience loss. Grief refers to our cognitive, emotional, physical, behavioural,
Grief in 7 Stages
In this article we define grief and identify seven stages we may go through after experiencing a loss. When we think of grief, we often
Neuroplasticity: Can You Really Change Your Thoughts and Habits?
We used to believe that the brain stopped growing when we reached adulthood. However, current research suggests that the brain retains neuroplasticity, or the ability
What to do when kids make bad jokes
How can we get better at handling inappropriate jokes in children? We’ve all been there, a child makes a joke with words they don’t seem
Avoiding Therapy Won’t Help You Avoid Pain
Most of us seek comfort and reward over pain and punishment. When our mood has been anxious or depressed for too long, our body begins
Collaborative Separation and Divorce
Think of the word divorce. What comes to mind? The idea of divorce is loaded with negative societal stereotypes such as traumatised children, heart-wrenching court
How Childhood Trauma affects us as Adults and Why we Deserve Treatment
As children, we start out helpless and powerless. When we are just born, we are fully reliant on our caregivers for nourishment, safety, and survival.
Managing Borderline Personality Disorder in Relationships
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) impacts relationships severely because it is linked with extreme fear of abandonment with a complexity of inability to regulate emotions. In