Beyond Boundaries
In the landscape of therapeutic interventions, the term “boundaries” has gained widespread popularity. In this article, Dr Quratulain Zaidi, of MindNLife explains why she’s reluctant
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Unlocking the Benefits of Online Therapy: A Guide to Choosing the Right Therapist
In today’s fast-paced world, taking care of our mental health and our holistic wellbeing is more important than ever. As a private psychology practice for
Will Divorce Affect My Child’s Sense of Security?
It is common for people to stay together for their children. They fear that their child might come from a broken home. These ideas do
Do New Year’s resolutions really work?
When we set big, overwhelming New Year’s resolutions, we also set up the expectation that we’re going to turn over an entirely new leaf and
Future proofing your marriage from grey divorce
It’s been about a decade since Brown’s research popularised the term “grey divorce” to describe this phenomenon – something that used to be a rarity,
Children and emotions
Children are innately emotional. From a young age, they go through various emotions like happiness, curiosity, sadness, and fear. Emotions serve an important function; we
Does EMDR work online?
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a technique that uses eye movements. The eye movements are a form of bilateral stimulation that reduces the
How EMDR can help children process traumatic experiences
Children are vulnerable and can easily be traumatised by various events in their lives. Traumatic experiences can have a profound impact on a child’s development
An Alternative to Conflict
The decision to end a marriage is challenging, and it kick-starts a cascade of events that require many more important decisions. One is how to
Can noise pollution effect our mental health?
Noise pollution is the spread of unwanted sounds into the environment. Even small increases in the level of ambient noise can have a significant effect.
Baby Blues or More?
In this article I address the issue of postnatal depression or baby blues and how it can affect not just new mums but their partners
Overwhelmed? Five Ways to Deal With It
Before the pandemic, Samantha was a social person. She would meet her friends and colleagues at least five times a week. Samantha would go to
The Grief Experience: Emotional Pain
Suggestions on how to manage your emotional pain following the death of a loved one. The pain of grief can be all-consuming and overwhelming. It
The Grief Experience: Guilt
Why guilt and shame may arise following the loss of a loved one, and how to navigate these feelings in a healthy way. Death is
The Grief Experience: Isolation
Discussing the experience of isolation during grief, and how to help ourselves feel more connected. Grief can be a very isolating experience. We may feel
The Grief Experience: Physical Pain
Elaborating on the physical pain we can experience following the death of a loved one and how we can ease it. Losing a loved one
The Grief Experience: Anger
Exploring the feeling of anger following the loss of a loved one, what it looks like, and what can help. Anger can come on like
Dr Zaidi on Friendship
Every friendship evolves uniquely however research shows there are a few factors that help form and maintain friendships through the years: these are accumulation, attention,
Feeling burnout in Hong Kong
As this year comes to an end, those of us in Hong Kong are facing mixed emotions. Primary among these may likely be burnout. Emotional
Healthy Mourning: Four Tasks
In this article we discuss four crucial tasks that contribute to a healthy grieving process and our healing from loss. Grief and mourning are often
Grief – How to Recognise Symptoms
In this article we identify common symptoms of grief to watch out for after we experience loss. Grief refers to our cognitive, emotional, physical, behavioural,
Grief in 7 Stages
In this article we define grief and identify seven stages we may go through after experiencing a loss. When we think of grief, we often
Neuroplasticity: Can You Really Change Your Thoughts and Habits?
We used to believe that the brain stopped growing when we reached adulthood. However, current research suggests that the brain retains neuroplasticity, or the ability
What to do when kids make bad jokes
How can we get better at handling inappropriate jokes in children? We’ve all been there, a child makes a joke with words they don’t seem
Avoiding Therapy Won’t Help You Avoid Pain
Most of us seek comfort and reward over pain and punishment. When our mood has been anxious or depressed for too long, our body begins
Collaborative Separation and Divorce
Think of the word divorce. What comes to mind? The idea of divorce is loaded with negative societal stereotypes such as traumatised children, heart-wrenching court
How Childhood Trauma affects us as Adults and Why we Deserve Treatment
As children, we start out helpless and powerless. When we are just born, we are fully reliant on our caregivers for nourishment, safety, and survival.
Managing Borderline Personality Disorder in Relationships
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) impacts relationships severely because it is linked with extreme fear of abandonment with a complexity of inability to regulate emotions. In
Reclaiming our Focus
There is no such thing as multitasking, only multi- failing! My children grew up hearing this from me almost every day. We need to reclaiming
How can Trauma Therapy Help?
Trauma therapy can diagnose and treat subclinical and clinical trauma- or stress-related disorders, such as Acute Stress Disorder or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. It addresses the
Understanding child therapy to better support your child’s needs
Three Differences about Child Therapy The process of child therapy has many distinct differences from that of adult therapy, and in order to better support
What if, what if, what if…coping with stress, anxiety and overwhelm
Anxiety and what we can do to cope Stress and anxiety can be motivating and healthy in just the right amount. Think of it as
How to Communicate Our Sexual Needs with Our Partner
Communication We all hear about how important it is to communicate our needs to our partners, but it’s not always easy to know exactly how
How can we break repetitive cycles of relationship conflict?
In this blog post we explore why we may get stuck in repetitive arguments with our partners, despite our best intentions to break these patterns:
How Setting Healthy Boundaries Supports Your Wellbeing
Holiday Pressure Anna had decided this year she would not visit her family for the holidays. She knew for sure that she would be hearing about
Navigating Bereavement during the Festive Period and Covid-19 Restrictions
Grief during the Holidays Holiday festivities are the times we usually gather with our loved ones to celebrate and create memories. This can make grief and
The Best Ways to Create Family-Cheer During Another Pandemic Christmas
Four Ways to create Family-cheer during another pandemic Christmas The holiday season, although traditionally a time of cheer and joy for many, can be notoriously
Couples and COVID: How Couples can Manage the Holidays
Intimacy during the Holidays The holidays are usually when people come together to celebrate, connect and bond with other family members and friends. However, here
The Benefits of Sexual Self Care
Taking care of the whole self It’s common these days to hear about self care and how one should value it. But what is self
A Preventative Approach to Mental Health: Five Ways to Bring Self-Care into your Life
Preventative Model Our current health model is reactive rather than preventative. The notion that many health issues can be prevented through daily habits and lifestyle
Self-care Strategies to Manage Childhood Trauma
Childhood Trauma and Self-Care Childhood trauma is our reaction to deeply distressing experiences that overwhelm our physical and mental coping abilities as children. Traumatic experiences
Tired? Sore? Inflamed? It might be your mental health
How our mental health is connected with physical symptoms Helena often felt like she had a chest infection. Her lungs felt tight, and she gasped
How To Use Self-Compassion as a Form of Self-Care
Healing through Self-Compassion “I’m going to fail; I just know it,” Andrea thought to herself before she started preparing for her exam. Then, her anxiety
Trauma and Covid-19
Trauma is our response to deeply distressing events that overwhelm our coping abilities. The global Covid-19 pandemic has brought about world-wide trauma, through the continuous
Sex and the Internet
When the internet became available, millions of people now had access to information that they normally would not have. They could explore all sorts of
Understanding Anxiety
Understanding Anxiety has become more and more important as the world has become far more familiar with talking about mental health (thank you global pandemic),
Trauma and the Internet (Part 2)
The internet has made the world smaller. Now, tragic incidents that occur halfway across the globe, are easily accessible through news reports, video platforms, social
Online Dating Scams and Betrayal Trauma
Adrian was tired of feeling lonely. Her friends told her that she should try online dating. She was hesitant at first because she wanted to
Trauma and the Internet
Repeated exposure to violent news reports, videos, and images on media platforms can trigger both direct and vicarious trauma responses. Direct trauma describes our experience
4 Ways to Build Stronger Communication with your Children
One of the largest changes during the Covid-19 lockdown measures, was having children sit in front of a computer screen all day for school. Then