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Baby Blues or More?

Mum with new born

In this article I address the issue of postnatal depression and how it can affect not just new mums but their partners too. Postnatal depression (PND) is a type of depression that many parents experience after having a baby. It’s a common mood disorder, affecting an estimated 15 to 18 percent of women within a … Read more

Dr Zaidi on Friendship

Three female friends having coffee in a cafe

Every friendship evolves uniquely however research shows there are a few factors that help form and maintain friendships through the years:  these are accumulation, attention, intention, rituals and flexibility. Accumulation The time spent together is an important factor. Research studies show that people have to spend  40 to 60 hours together within the first six … Read more

Feeling burnout in Hong Kong

A woman sitting at her desk holding hands over eyes feeling burnt out

As this year comes to an end, those of us in Hong Kong are facing mixed emotions. Primary among these may likely be burnout. Emotional burnout, depletion of compassion, and a decreased sense of accomplishment – if any of that sounds familiar, I want you to rest easy that you are not alone. Burnout is … Read more

Collaborative Separation and Divorce

Think of the word divorce. What comes to mind? The idea of divorce is loaded with negative societal stereotypes such as traumatised children, heart-wrenching court cases, and families broken in two.  What if a healthier, respectful, dignified, non-toxic simpler divorce was possible? Going through a divorce is by no means easy. It’s expensive, time-consuming, and … Read more

Managing Borderline Personality Disorder in Relationships

Couple with borderline personality disorder

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) impacts relationships severely because it is linked with extreme fear of abandonment with a complexity of inability to regulate emotions. In both romantic and platonic relationships, people with BPD often experience cyclical relationships, creating an often harmful imbalance that breeds feelings of chaos for everyone involved. These cycles consist of six … Read more

Reclaiming our Focus

Women walking in city looking at her phone

There is no such thing as multitasking, only multi- failing! My children grew up hearing this from me almost every day. I’m passionate about raising awareness around the impact of technology on our relationships and our children’s development, and the use of social media and its impact on mental health. Research shows that, on average, … Read more

Attachment styles and relationships

Couple holding hands at a restaurant

Have you ever wondered why some people are able to cut off an ex and move on, while others are ‘clingy’ and need constant validation from their significant other? Maybe you’ve experienced this yourself: you’re moving along in what seems to be a perfectly happy relationship when suddenly your partner becomes cold and distant without … Read more

Mental Health and Menopause

Women’s bodies go through many changes biologically, hormonally, and psychologically, from menstrual cycles to pregnancy, to childbirth, to the physical limits of postpartum, and more, women’s bodies are constantly changing and evolving to adapt to new chapters in life. Menopause has long been seen as a taboo subject related to the shame of aging. However, … Read more

Yes, it’s Possible to Leave a Narcissist

If you’re dating a narcissist, you might be experiencing narcissistic abuse. Leaving an abusive relationship is far from easy, as abusers will do anything to maintain the power and control they need. Research shows it takes an average of seven attempts to leave an abusive relationship, and at times leaving a narcissist can seem impossible. … Read more

Narcissism In Relationships: Everything You Need to Know

Dr. Quratulain Zaidi on signs that point towards your significant other being a narcissist. Dating a narcissist can be dangerous territory, as it can lead to narcissistic abuse in extreme cases. While just about anyone can display narcissistic behaviour from time to time, for someone to be diagnosed with true narcissist personality disorder (NPD) they … Read more