Dr. Quratulain Zaidi 
As this year comes to an end, those of us in Hong Kong are facing mixed emotions. Primary among these may likely be burnout. Emotional burnout, depletion of compassion, and a decreased sense of accomplishment – if any of that sounds familiar, I want you to rest easy that you are not alone. Burnout is … Read more
Think of the word divorce. What comes to mind? The idea of divorce is loaded with negative societal stereotypes such as traumatised children, heart-wrenching court cases, and families broken in two. What if a healthier, respectful, dignified, non-toxic simpler divorce was possible? Going through a divorce is by no means easy. It’s expensive, time-consuming, and … Read more
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) impacts relationships severely because it is linked with extreme fear of abandonment with a complexity of inability to regulate emotions. In both romantic and platonic relationships, people with BPD often experience cyclical relationships, creating an often harmful imbalance that breeds feelings of chaos for everyone involved. These cycles consist of six … Read more
Have you ever wondered why some people are able to cut off an ex and move on, while others are ‘clingy’ and need constant validation from their significant other? Maybe you’ve experienced this yourself: you’re moving along in what seems to be a perfectly happy relationship when suddenly your partner becomes cold and distant without … Read more
Women’s bodies go through many changes biologically, hormonally, and psychologically, from menstrual cycles to pregnancy, to childbirth, to the physical limits of postpartum, and more, women’s bodies are constantly changing and evolving to adapt to new chapters in life. Menopause has long been seen as a taboo subject related to the shame of aging. However, … Read more
If you’re dating a narcissist, you might be experiencing narcissistic abuse. Leaving an abusive relationship is far from easy, as abusers will do anything to maintain the power and control they need. Research shows it takes an average of seven attempts to leave an abusive relationship, and at times leaving a narcissist can seem impossible. … Read more
Dr. Quratulain Zaidi on signs that point towards your significant other being a narcissist. Dating a narcissist can be dangerous territory, as it can lead to narcissistic abuse in extreme cases. While just about anyone can display narcissistic behaviour from time to time, for someone to be diagnosed with true narcissist personality disorder (NPD) they … Read more
Dr. Quratulain Zaidi on the distinction between a normal narcissist and someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and how to spot someone with the latter. The word ‘narcissist’ sometimes gets thrown around as an insult to someone who thinks a little too highly of themselves. But narcissism is a spectrum, and we all exhibit narcissistic … Read more
Taking care of the whole self It’s common these days to hear about self care and how one should value it. But what is self care? One definition is that it’s taking care of the whole self. It can include several different aspects, such as the physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental parts of ourselves. However, … Read more
Childhood Trauma and Self-Care Childhood trauma is our reaction to deeply distressing experiences that overwhelm our physical and mental coping abilities as children. Traumatic experiences activate a fight or flight response. During these reactions, our brain directs our resources to enhance our immediate physical performance. It gives us the best chance at survival. After the … Read more