Dr. Monica Borschel 
What is Shame? When Aaron was small, his mother would lock him in the closet to discipline him when he was loud. His father would come home and shout at his mother for doing this. Then, Aaron’s father would walk over to the closet and let him out. He would then say, “what did you … Read more
EMDR Francine Shapiro created eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). One day as she was walking and thinking, she noticed that her eyes were shifting back and forth, from left to right. As her eyes moved, she felt less negative emotion when remembering her distressing memories. She became curious and developed a therapy that … Read more
If you were to google types of loneliness, you might be surprised at how many lonely types there are. One loneliness researcher found eighty different types of loneliness. Loneliness can range from existential loneliness to physical loneliness. Any loneliness can lead to feeling unseen, unheard and unloved. Here are some of the types of loneliness … Read more
Anxiety and what we can do to cope Stress and anxiety can be motivating and healthy in just the right amount. Think of it as a well-being scale. Too little stress and we don’t get anything done. Yet too much pressure keeps our nervous system on a drive without any brakes. When our bodies undergo … Read more
Holiday Pressure Anna had decided this year she would not visit her family for the holidays. She knew for sure that she would be hearing about this for a while from her parents. She could hear it now, “How could you do this to me!” Her mom would shout. “You are so ungrateful. I have done … Read more
How our mental health is connected with physical symptoms Helena often felt like she had a chest infection. Her lungs felt tight, and she gasped for air. Was she suffering from pneumonia? When she visited the medical doctor, all her tests seemed to be normal. The doctor asked her, “What else is going on in your … Read more
Healing through Self-Compassion “I’m going to fail; I just know it,” Andrea thought to herself before she started preparing for her exam. Then, her anxiety started to worsen, and she struggled to focus. Even though Andrea had done well in school, she always felt like she wasn’t good enough. Andrea had just gotten out of … Read more
Adrian was tired of feeling lonely. Her friends told her that she should try online dating. She was hesitant at first because she wanted to find a partner and not a hookup. With their help, her friends finally managed to convince her to put up a profile. After a few days, she started chatting online … Read more
Mary was struggling to get her children ready to see their father, Darren, every weekend. It was always the same story. Her twelve year old would cry; she didn’t want to go. However, her seven-year-old son couldn’t wait to see his dad. Mary was also struggling with access. She had felt discarded by her ex-husband … Read more
How to improve parent child communication and relationship during families transition through Separation or Divorce… Every Friday evening, Matt would go to his ex-wife’s house to pick up his daughter, Wendy, for their weekend access. His heart was racing, and a cold sweat formed on his forehead. He could already picture it in his mind. … Read more